Regarding 1 Nephi 16:23

 Elder Marion D. Hanks said: " 'If you treat an individual has he is, he will stay as he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he could be and ought to be, he will become what he ought to be.... [Nephi] could have gone to his own knees. He could have taken over. I count this as one of the really significant lessons of life in the [Book of Mormon].... [Nephi] had strength enough, and humility enough ... to go to his wavering [parent] and say, 'You ask God, will you?' Because somehow he knew that this is how you make [others] strong, that wise confidence in [others] builds them."